Assalam Alaikum sis, thank you for reading this post, I hope it really gives you some insight.
So today i wanted to share with you my thoughts on achieving happiness in this world. I have 3 steps to take and you need to do them consistently. Happiness is a journey, and happiness is different for each and every one of us. It’s not a place you find and stop, you may find it but find that tomorrow it's moved or you may find it and then something happens which knocks you off.
But In Sha Allah these steps are helpful to you.
- Turn To Allah.
So number one is of course to Turn to Allah. From my short life and few experiences, no one will care or understand the way Allah will. We all make mistakes, we have all gone through experiences that cause us to sometimes make the wrong choices. We all have weak desires, and he created and decreed those desires, so when you do fall short, just stand back up, seek repentance and keep it moving. Allah even said if we didn't sin, he would replace us with a creation that did just so we’d seek repentance, Allah wants us to repent to him. Never ever let a mistake, shortcoming or sin, consume you to the point you don't turn back to Allah. Yes, it was a mistake, but that fact that you're still here on the earth means He will forgive you.
And moving on from that, I truly believe the only way the heart can find true lasting happiness on this earth, is to find its purpose, and our purpose is to worship God in the way He has asked us to. We can also have other purposes but our number one purpose is to worship God in the way that he has asked us to.
2. Honesty/Sincerity With Yourself.
Number two, You need to be honest with yourself and sometimes that can be one of the most difficult things to do. No one likes to admit that they are less than. No one like to admit they aren't where they expected themselves to be at a certain age. But to really find the happiness you need to take the steps towards honesty and sincerity with yourself. What are your weaknesses, so you can change them, and what are your strength so that you can use them to worship Allah.
3. Change/Improve your shortcomings.
I don’t believe in accepting your flaws, the idea makes absolutely no sense to me. Why would I accept something which is bad about myself? Once you've been honest with yourself, you then need to improve and change. so that you can be the person you want to be. Self-hate and self-sabotaging behaviour come from a place where you don't love yourself, so to begin loving yourself you need to change what you don’t like about yourself and become the person who you’d love to spend time with.
Only then can you truly find happiness, it really isn't easy, and it is something you must continuously do your whole life. Happiness is important because only then can you really give yourself to others. Only then can you give yourself to your husband, your children and even your life dreams.
I hope you've enjoyed this blog post. What other advice can you give to a fellow sister about gaining true happiness, let’s make this blog into a destination where Muslim women can come and feel uplifted and inspired.
Have a lovely day,
Your sister, Lizzamah